TODAY – When couples love each other but dread bedtime together, a “sleep divorce” may be the solution.
Snoring, body heat, restless legs, different schedules and a yearning for personal space are just some of the reasons why some happy couples choose to sleep apart, whether in separate beds in the same room, or in separate rooms altogether.
A survey of 3,000 Americans posted on a mattress review site found about 31% of respondents would like a “sleep divorce” in their relationship.
That’s consistent with a National Sleep Foundation survey that reported almost 1 in 4 American couples sleep in separate bedrooms or beds.
TODAY’s Carson Daly on Friday revealed he and his wife have been sleeping apart while they’re renovating their house.
“We don’t want to sleep apart, but we have now and I think secretly, we’re like, ‘This is kind of cool,’ because you get command of the whole room,” he said.
“Sometimes, you just want to have your own space,” added Sheinelle Jones. Some of the hosts said their spouses build a “pillow wall” in bed to create their own space without officially sleeping apart.
The arrangements can vary. Michael Breus, a Los Angeles-area clinical psychologist who is also known as “The Sleep Doctor,” told TODAY he knows some couples who sleep separately during the week, but together on the weekends.
One Utah couple credited their separate bedrooms for a healthy sex life after eight years of marriage.
He’s a night owl, while she prefers to wake up earlier, so they both enjoy their own space at night. It’s turned out to be a satisfying arrangement.
“Let’s face it — lack of energy is a far greater threat to an active sex life than lack of opportunity. And we are better rested,” Daryl Austin of Orem, Utah, wrote in a Los Angeles Times column last year. Read more.