Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, And The Question Of Why
(Henna Inam, FORBES) This weekend, many of us experienced a stunned sadness.
The suicides of two celebrities, Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade, left us wondering what happened. What did we miss?
The Bourdain and Spade suicides have opened up new questions about my assumptions about dream careers.
Bourdain and Spade had achieved significant success. They were at the top of their fields. They were engaged in work that they were passionate about.
They had fame. They had fortune.
They had somehow figured out their unique talents and were fully expressing them to create positive impact for so many.
They had family and friends who loved them and fans who adored them.
The place they reached is the place many of us aspire to. For many of us, isn’t the dream to find our passion? To connect with our talents? To live our passions out loud? To impact others positively? To love and be loved? To find work that is not just a paycheck but fills us? Isn’t this what self-actualization is about?
I imagine nirvana lives just on the other side of self-actualization. Does it?
At the height of what seemed on the outside were enviable lives well lived, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain chose to end it all.
I am not a mental health expert. I can’t even begin to fathom what was going through their minds when they made the decision to leave. But, here are some questions that are going through my mind this week. I urge us to reflect on these questions as we go about pursuing our dream careers:
Most of us assume that we will be happy when (fill in the blank). The fill in the blank can be the next achievement, the corner office, the success of the side gig, the perfect partner. What if we will not be happy “when”? Read the full story at FORBES.
Henna Inam is the CEO of Transformational Leadership Inc. and the author of “Wired for Authenticity.”